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At House of Vasileia online fellowship we looked at marriage related issues. This will change how you see marriage. Follow us on this series! 

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No 1… 

You must know how to cook

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Do you see that?

It is a big lie🤣🤣🤣🤣

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No 2… 

You must learn to look into his or her eyes…

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You see this one too?

Another nonsense

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Let’s face the real thing.

Hollywood is a very wrong place to learn what marriage should look like. Sometimes they present love as that guy who is tall, well built up, with 6packs… Strong and extremely caring. The lady is so beautiful and sexy with Coca-Cola bottle shape… They fall in love, lost communication, reconciled and became happily ever after.

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Nollywood is the worst! Africa as a continent is full of cultures that aren’t friendly to God’s original plans for marriage. So, their movie industries will just present the woman who can cook or the man who can give money at random and with reckless abandon as the right person to be married to. 

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Then… We want to copy it and materialize it into reality. It doesn’t work and we cry… “all men are the same” or “all women are the same”

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We fall for these things because we don’t know what is important and what is not important in considering relationships.

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On the other hand… We also see marriage being defined as something very complicated, heart rendering and full of thorns… We are made to believe that marriage is just another hell. This leaves us wondering… Is marriage really worth our time? Is marriage being over rated or is there really anything like healthy marriage?

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As a young and unmarried man who is active on the topic of relationships, I have come across so many married people who gave me the picture that marriage is hell. If I should be discouraged on marriage, that would have been a long time ago. But no, I know better. Marriage is God’s design and marriage is a great thing! 

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I will share some things we need to know and then I would allow us to interact on them… You can also ask questions and I promise to answer them. 

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My key points are

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  1. Your definition is in Christ and not in your spouse.

Until you discover yourself, you have not discovered who the right partner for you is. If you don’t know who you are, you don’t know what is good for you. If you don’t know where you are going, you can agree to walk with the wrong person. The biggest catastrophe happens when a man who lacks direction meets a woman who also lacks direction. They will fall into the ocean. A man or woman who knows where he or she is going cannot fall for any kind of marriage proposal.

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If I am a king, only a queen is fit for me. So, when I am searching, I am searching for that woman who is fit for the crown and the office of a queen. A queen can’t fall for a Servant… She can only walk with royalty. Until a man  understands his place… He is not rightly placed.

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How can a man be defined?

The Bible says “if any man be in Christ, old things are passed away and behold, all things are new! ” 2 Corinthians 5:17

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Awesome..!

You can’t pour a fresh wine in the old wine skin. If you’re new and pure, you need someone who is like you! If you are in Christ, you need a partner who is in Christ. You aren’t marrying a man to answer his surname… You’re marrying him because with him you can win together. 

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A woman doesn’t complete a man… A man doesn’t complete a woman. It is a complete man or woman that is qualified to get married. You’re complete in Jesus, outside Jesus you aren’t complete. You’re not complete in marriage but in Jesus for it is in Jesus that you experience newness. Who ever is in Christ is a NEW COMPLETE CREATURE!!!!

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Hallelujah!

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No man’s love can transform a man like Jesus does. The sweetest man to be in a relationship with is that man who has discovered himself and his place in Christ. Many people have come to Jesus for salvation but they’ve not actually sought for his righteousness. The Bible says “seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness” – Matthew 6:33

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I taught us sometime ago that the kingdom is a person, that person is JESUS and His righteousness is also a person, that person is the New Creature which is us! 

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The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 5:21 “God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.”

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When you seek JESUS (the kingdom), you should seek to discover His righteousness (YOU)

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It is in the process of discovering who you are that you understand yourself better, this is where you start filtering your choices and you see it aligning with God’s perfect will. 

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  1. Don’t seek to fulfill your spouse, don’t seek fulfillment from your spouse. 

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When you understand that you cannot fulfill your spouse, you stop trying to do so. You’re not enough for yourselves, Jesus must still be in the picture and at the center of it all. It’s not like Jesus is forcing Himself to be part of everything you do, outside Him you simply don’t exist. You’re not your spouse savior, Jesus is! When you try to be everything for your spouse, you get exhausted and fail. You’re not capable of being everything for your spouse. It doesn’t mean you overlook your responsibilities in relationships, it means you understand that Jesus should be the captain. Entrust your spouse to God through prayers and through constant study of God’s word together. This is why we always say that the right person for you is that man or woman who encourages your fellowship with God. Don’t ever fall a victim of thinking “I can make him fulfilled”. Allow Christ to do it and you’ll see how God has designed our life to run easily. 2 Peter 1:3 says “By his divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know him, the one who called us to himself by means of his marvelous glory and excellence.”

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Only by the knowledge of Jesus can we receive everything we need for living a fulfilled life. When you entrust your spouse to God it will give you room to love him/her freely.

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We hope you’re blessed by this awesome teaching? Join us next Saturday on our virtual fellowship as we continue on this series. 

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God bless you. 

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-George O.N-

House of Vasileia 

#GracefulGeorge

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