Share

Just shut up! 

How dare you use such words? 

Waitooo… Who do you think you are? Jehovah Jireh? 

:

I have come across many extremely egocentric persons who think they are actually the ones doing you a privilege by accepting or requesting to be in a relationship with you and eventually marry you. They are usually public figures, celebrities or some of these rich young men and women. They also cover up their egos with scriptures and when you eventually give in to them hoping to see someone who has a refined personality, you discover that behind the suit lies a man or woman who needs so much help. There problem is not that they need help, so many persons need help  but their problem is that they don’t agree they need help, they see their weaknesses as no issue and see you as someone they are assisting to bring out in the public. Excuse me; it’s not everyone that is moved by that ‘public figure’ or ‘celebrity’ status! 

:

Let me buttress my point.

Relationship is not about a person, relationship is built on a purpose and that purpose cannot be achieved when one person feels more important than the other. Both parties in a relationship are privileged to meet each other and establish a relationship. People who make you feel like they are just helping you by marrying you will make you feel terrible. Behind their suit, celebrity status and all those public figure entourage that follows them, they are struggling with serious issues and may need someone who tolerates their undisciplined traits; they may need someone who can help work on them. However, because of their ego, they wouldn’t want to admit they have a problem. This was the very problem Jesus had with the Pharisees and other elites of Judaism. They knew they had issues but they never wanted to open up, if they had opened up, they would have received salvation. Some of them didn’t receive salvation, not because it was given but because they simply rejected it for their ego couldn’t let them submit to Jesus. 

:

This is why certain ladies undergo several abuses in the hands of their partner and they still stick to him, not because they want to but because they feel that they have gone too far to back off, they think their life is now tied to the hands of the man. Some of us go around creating an impression that we are very perfect people in the flesh, that we are just too good to really admit meeting someone who wants to take our flaws is a privilege and we go ahead to make very stupid remarks like “you will regret not marrying me”… When I hear people say that, I want to walk up to them from the back, tap them gently and as they are turning to look at me, I give them a blow they cannot forget in their life plus a question such as “and who do you think you are?”

:

Little wonders proud people always fail!

It takes humility to appreciate someone who has chosen to be with us. It doesn’t matter how good, romantic and understanding we think we are, we are not the one doing someone a favor by marrying them or being in a relationship with them, we need them as much as they need us. They can help us become even better and we can help them in our own way too. Adam never knew he needed a help meet, Adam never complained to God because he never had an early orientation of being in the company of someone before and he never wanted it because he never knew about it But, when God brought the woman to him, he didn’t go about saying “you can’t do without me…”, he rather admitted that “this is the woman I need!”. 

:

I just hate that arrogance!

When we go about treating people as though they are nothing without us, we have proven that we cannot be trusted. It means we are not looking for a relationship, we are just a colonial masters and no one wants to be under a colonial master. This doesn’t mean we don’t appreciate ourselves… Oh come on! I do that a lot! I tell myself that my wife and kids will be blessed having me as their own and I look at myself in the mirror and tell myself “George you are good… God made you good” but I don’t come to someone and put it up to her saying “if you do not succumb to me… You are gone!” if we act that way, we are not different from those men who rape women for saying “no” to them. It shows we are just being obsessed with our own self that we cannot appreciate another person.

:

You’re damn good!

I don’t mean we stop seeing our importance or we stop appreciating ourselves. If we can’t appreciate ourselves and see ourselves as people who are worthy of someone’s love we may start living in self-pity. When we lose confidence in ourselves, we may not able to give our best. What I am kicking against is when we start magnifying our personality over another and start seeing ourselves as the only important person in a relationship, it makes us become bossy, selfish and very annoying. Our partner’s decisions may not even matter to us anymore because we feel our words are the final say… That is what you get when you are in a relationship where one person thinks you are only privileged to meet him or her. No, we are privileged to meet ourselves.

:

What many people cover up with such unnecessary ego in their relationships are their terrible past and present. Some of them have a very terrible lifestyle that you may not know about, they suffer from lots of addiction and they are truly feeling very inferior about themselves just that they try to protect their weaknesses and magnify their selves over you in a bid to measure up and have you respect them. They feel once they open up to you they lose their ‘superior image’. Anyone who acts this way is very difficult to change because they know they have a problem but they are just never going to admit, they will employ all manner of tactics to cover it until you are entirely trapped into their lives.

:

If you fall into this category of persons, you may need to help yourself by admitting that you need help. Most public figures have this issue; they hide the devils in them inside their designers wears. Don’t be caught in the web of illusions, it will not always last long and when it ends it damages all the integrity you have falsely built. Being honest about yourself brings you more respect than you can ever imagine. I remember meeting a lady who told me about her past and things she feel is her weaknesses, for her sincerity I developed so much respect for her and till date I have not stopped seeing her the way I do even though there was nothing between us that crossed the ‘friend-zone’, not because I was avoiding her because of her past but because even before hearing the story of her past and weaknesses I have always known we wouldn’t cross that zone. It is because I may not be the kind of person she wants and we are heading towards different direction. I had to clearly express this so that you understand that being sincere with you are does not scare people away, it makes people love you the more and even trust you. If someone can be free enough to share her ugly past or weaknesses to me, then I will always trust that she will be very open and sincere as we work something out. We are there to help, build, cherish and respect ourselves after all.

:

Defeat that ego!

It’s time to give up on your ego; you may not like yourself when things turn against you. It will definitely turn against you if you keep living that way. No wonder the bible says that pride goes before a fall! Pride will make you keep building on the mountains of lies, lies don’t last forever. 

:

Relationship isn’t just an affair, it is a responsibility. If you are in a relationship, then it is time to be very responsible, it is time to work on yourself and your partner. Let me tell you what a sweet relationship looks like… When you can look into your partner’s eyes and say “I understand… We will fight together and win together” and your partner can do same to you, it is a sweet relationship. Kill that pride… In a relationship we’re still babies that grow every day. 

:

Darling, you need me and I need you too… I need you very much!

:

God bless you!

#GracefulGeorge

Related Post

Share

Let's Discuss it

Loading Facebook Comments ...
Loading Disqus Comments ...